Get Past the Pain of Unrequited Love | Guest Post

We often wonder how we can get over a relationship, a marriage, no matter how long or brief it might have been, because despite the decision to end it, the emotions linger well beyond the breakup day. But what about all those emotions that build up for someone who never reciprocated in the first place.

Acknowledge and grieve

Take a solitary moment to recognize the emotions that have been growing inside, from infatuation, hope, disappointment, to hurt and rejection. Then finally, accept that the feeling of love isn’t mutual, and start to process the loss. Don’t be surprised if you have to go through it several times, especially if your feelings are towards someone close, such as a friend – but it will eventually pass.

There’s other fish in the sea

As cliché as this may sound, it’s best to open your eyes to new possibilities as soon as possible, to be able to find someone who will not only awake the same (if not greater!) flame of passion and love, but also who will feel the same for you. That cannot happen as long as you keep yourself a prisoner of your own illusions, and waiting for the impossible to happen. Move on by going out with new people, accept date invitations, have fun and keep an open mind, you never know if true love is just around the corner!

Let go from within

It’s one thing to distance yourself physically and stop spending time with the person you’re in love with. But have you really stopped flooding your mind with the hopes and visions of a possible change of heart, envisioning your future together, how they might still fall in love with you as well? Giving yourself this false hope can only fester in your soul and prevent you from truly moving on with your life. Admittedly, getting over someone takes time and effort, but it starts with letting go of your own illusions and dreams about this person.

No time to waste

Since spending your emotional and mental energy on this person is literally a waste of time, you need to start filling your days with more meaningful, self-healing and fulfilling activities that will not just keep your mind off things, but also make you feel more valuable. Head to the gym, start a journal, learn a new dance, read, do whatever makes you happy and provides you with a safe space to be yourself.

Keep it positive

A common result of unrequited love is negative self-talk and criticism such as “I’m not good enough”. It’s essential to prevent yourself from getting stuck in that thinking pattern, because it can only derail your progress and affect your self-esteem. Instead, try this mental exercise every day: find at least three things that make you a valuable person and things you’re grateful for in your life. An attitude of gratitude is a healthy way to move forward with your life!



Scarlet is a passionate writer and regular contributor at interested in fashion, lifestyle, and health.
She loves traveling, you could say that she is a real travel addict,
especially when she has a chance to visit some exotic destinations.
She would tell you that inspiration can be found in the most unexpected places.
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  • Reply Nerline Germain

    This is such a wonderful post. "There is a fish in the sea." You are right, sister!

    January 17, 2018 at 6:12 pm
  • Reply Scarlet Gratton

    Definitely, plenty of fish! 😉

    January 17, 2018 at 7:38 pm
  • Reply Benita James

    I like this post because it's genuinely written and she is right about everything, so true there are other fishes in the sea.

    Bernie, xx
    The Style Fanatic

    January 18, 2018 at 7:54 pm
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