Sometimes you get Lost In Your Own Thoughts. Thinking of what you want your future to be like instead of seeing the actual reality of it all. You have this dream of meeting that Mr Right/Ms Right and getting married. Along the you had a few rough patches but you got to the part you’ve been waiting for, getting engaged!. You’re so focused on wanting to get engaged and getting married you don’t realize the red flags along the way.
The good does out weigh the bad but can you live with the red flags in the long run?. It’s the time and the moment you’ve been waiting for, getting married!! Yay!!!. You get married things are tough for the first year. But you got through it still lost in your thoughts and ignoring the red flags. Liking the idea of wearing a ring, having the title being called my wife/wifey or husband/hubby.
A baby now comes into play and the baby brings you both joy and happiness than you’ve ever had before. Watching them grow up and reaching milestones in their lives. Still hanging onto your marriage and ignoring the red flags because you like the idea of it all and you care more about what people are gonna think if you leave. Making the excuse of you’re staying for the child or children.
Oh wow time has flow it’s now time for your little cubs to go off to college. Hmmm and now you come to the realization that all these years you’ve not been as happy and that fairy tale you had in your head is not what’s about to happen. That moment when your partner comes to you, i’m leaving!. Why are you leaving?, Are you happy?. You were so busy focusing on the life you’ve wanted and dreamed of that you didn’t live the life you needed to live. Where was the actual love, romance, bonding and doing things together as a family.
Reality hits you. You’ve missed out on a lot over the years not lived out any of your dreams, put your life on hold which is worth it because you got your child/children. Other than that was it all worth it. At the end of the day you’re both not on the same page anymore you may have thought everything was ok but your partner doesn’t. And that right there is lost communication. At this point there is nothing left to do but come back to reality and start doing things that you’ve always wanted to do.
At the end of it all loves, don’t just get lost in your own thoughts with what you want or what you think you want. Be with someone who you’re compatible with. Someone whose gonna build with you and grow together. Don’t just fall in love with the fairy tale, fall in love with the reality of it all too.
Always remember to BE YOU DO YOU AND LOVE YOURSELF.