How To Know You Have A Problem. Our minds can be funny things. They can pay attention to things that aren’t altogether true. While ignoring the most important needs we have. For example, we might feel insecure about our new coat on the way into work, because we don’t quite feel it fits our body correctly. But while thinking about this, we might be rude to someone on the way into work because our minds are on this topic, and we’re not quite thinking about our manners. Where does the real problem lie here?. Are we to blame for our momentary misdirection?.
Well, no matter your answers to those questions, it’s not hard to see how those directed questions can be a worrying thing we have to keep on top of. But sometimes, our misdirection of mind can be much more serious than we might have expected.
From time to time, we might be suspicious that we have a problem. It might be completely staring us in the face. But self-justification is the easiest thing to think yourself into, and so we might not realize it. It takes guts to seek the truth. Let us see what that might look like:.
You Possess A Habit No One Knows About
It might be that you have a habit of viewing internet pornography. Due to your frequency of use and due to how socially taboo this can be. (Despite its prevalence,) you will obviously find yourself making excuses for how you might have spent time last night. If you find that you much prefer to drink alone because you outpace others dramatically, this can also become an isolation exercise. No matter if you have a habit you feel shy about or that you know would socially escalate if revealed. Continually finding out a solo space to engage and hide it from others can show you that it’s something perhaps less-than-healthy to stay interested in.
It’s Affecting Your Life
If you find yourself drinking too much, that you cannot pass a gambling shop without entering, that you struggle to keep your meal portion control under wraps, and you have little interest in doing anything else in your free time – you have a problem. If you find that it keeps you awake much later than you would have liked to be, or that you’re continually exhausted or out of cash, then there’s a chance that it’s affecting your life. But it might not be that it’s only affecting your schedule or financial backing.
It could also be that it’s affecting who you are. If you continually find that you encounter mood swings, exhaustion, you’re more quick to anger, you feel extremely defensive and agitated. You find your focus tanking, you continually exercise bad judgement, you have a very limited self-esteem, you feel hopeless quite often. or that you’re starting to become paranoid and distrustful of even your most trusted and cared-for loved ones, then odds are it’s affecting your life to some extreme degree.
We previously discussed how you might find yourself isolated from others, be that through losing contact or through directly pushing away. But sometimes it can be hard to gauge this metric. Because it’s very easy for us to consider other people the problem with a healthy mind, let alone one under the influence of something addictive and difficult to deal with.
If you’ve found that keeping up with your work or schooling duties has now become an obstacle, not a challenge, you might be showing behavioral signs of addiction (provided you can actually grapple with the work.) This, coupled with deceptive or secretive behavior. Losing interest in hobbies that you once truly enjoyed, wanting to quit but continually failing to. ‘Accepting’ negative circumstances because this is simply a consequence of your habit. Or perhaps a lack of interest in caring for your appearance or hygiene can leave your life somewhat unfortunately held back.
These symptoms matter, and if you have a majority of these, then the likelihood is you objectively need help. For that reason, using bordered parameters like this can be the best means of shocking you into action once more.
You Don’t Feel Like Yourself
There’s something that all addicts and those struggling with internal problems face. They know they’re not living as they should be. An addict isn’t an addict in their soul. They have a disease. It is an illness. It can be treated. If you find that you struggle to relate to yourself, to know who you are, to desire anything, and you feel as though you have symptoms of depersonalization, you’ll find that there’s likely a bigger issue here. Once you start to return to yourself you’ll realize how vibrant everything can be once more. This is why it’s best to take stock of your problem, because it will show in the root of your experience.
Know You’re Not A Bad Person
Hating yourself, condemning yourself, and thinking you will never get better is a self-fulfilling prophecy. The sad part is that it’s not true. You can never accept you have a problem until you’re willing to admit it to yourself, and it will take a much longer time to admit this to yourself if you feel you are forever condemned by it. This is why giving yourself a break is essential.
No matter what you have lost, no matter the memories you would rather be rid of. Knowing this can help you begin to brush the thick clouds from your shoulders, and will help you start seeing the ray of light coming your way. On top of that, remember that you needn’t simply have encountered this through bad decision-making. Someone suffering PTSD symptoms may have turned to the bottle to counteract the pain they were going through. For example, there’s always a root of this behavior. Sometimes, giving yourself a small piece of compassion can help you begin to build yourself back up again. It’s worth a try.
With this advice, we hope you are able to get the help you need, through first admitting you need it.