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Can An Ex Be A Friend ?

Can An Ex Be A Friend

My question to you today is Can An Ex Be A Friend ?. I did a poll on Instagram and 75% said yes while 25% said no. Btw if your not already following me in Instagram, what are you waiting for!!.

In my opinion yes an ex can be a friend. However it all depends on the situation and why things ended. At the same time what’s the sense of keeping someone in your heart. At the end of the day it’s eating you away and no one else.

If things ended on a not so bad note or a good note or even a very bad note yes you can be friends. It all has to do with forgiveness and moving on with your life. I’m gonna be transparent with you loves. My longest relationship was 4 years and well being together for so long you think that yes the next step is coming, however it did not. I hated him for years with the way things ended. But that did not help me in moving on.

Hating him made me have problems in my next relationship. In ways which were not healthy. Forgiving him lifted a weight off my shoulder that I didn’t realize was there until I did. Talking to him and putting everything behind and him apologizing did so much for me. I didn’t realize how pent up I was and all I was bottling inside.

Today he is a friend and like a brother to me. You may say a brother and chuckle, yes I know you’re chuckling at the thought. The fact is to how much I hated him for years and in the end forgiving him. I had brotherly love for him not the kind of love that would make me ever want to get into a relationship with him. I don’t know if you understand where I’m coming from but that’s as best as I can explain it.

To the point at which I’m coming from yes I do think your ex can be a friend at the same time it all depends not every ex can be a friend and that’s a fact. Doesn’t mean you should keep malaise though. You can say hi and bye that’s it if that person can’t be a friend. Just don’t keep that person in your heart.

At the end of the day once you have a free heart and you have forgiven your past, it won’t affect your future.

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5 Comments

  • Reply Marcos Martinez

    An ex could be an friend. I never try to burn bridges with anyone unless the friendship or relationship becomes really toxic

    February 26, 2019 at 10:38 am
  • Reply Vanessa

    I had a debate regarding this topic when I was in Jamaica (I go back and forth twice a year so I know the culture). I found that it was acceptable there but not acceptable in the USA and UK. I’m from London and nobody would dare be friends with their exs as the ex always tries to come back.
    I do believe that cultures and foreign life is completely different (I’m only mentioning this because I see that you live in Jamaica). I’m planning to move there in the next year or so, the culture difference is major, therefore it’s something that I need to adapt to.
    This was a great read and an eye-opener, thank you. ???

    March 1, 2019 at 8:15 am
    • Reply Mssparkleandglow

      Hey Vanessa thanks for reading and i’n glad it was an eye opener. Hope to meet you when you do move here

      March 3, 2019 at 11:30 pm
      • Reply Vanessa

        That would be great. I am very excited on my move. Very. England is way to cold. Lol!

        March 7, 2019 at 9:22 am

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